Too Fat? Too Skinny? I am SO sick of this.
You know what’s been really frustrating me lately? The fact that I never get a break. Everyone’s always constantly judging my body like I don’t read the comments or something. First, they say I’m too fat. Now they say I’m too skinny. I seriously don’t know if my body is ever going to be good enough.
You guys, I’ve been on the internet since 2009 and honestly when I posted my first Pilates workout, I thought the meanest comment I was going to get was going to be about my form. Oh, how naive I was. 99% of the mean comments I got were about my weight, how fat I was, why I didn’t have abs and why my butt was flat. Let me also remind you that these comments came from other women, as my channel demographic is made up of an overwhelming majority of women. It’s easy to say that I should have ignored those comments from strangers because why should their opinion matter to me…but it did. I’m a really sensitive person who cares what people think about me – to a fault – so it really hurt me to hear these things. And honestly I let it shape the way I saw myself.
Being made fun of for being the fattest kid in class made growing up really hard. 6th grade was the worst. I was already super nerdy, an overachiever, a teacher’s pet, my mom wouldn’t let me shave my hairy legs or arms (my hairs were like 3 inches long each, no joke), AND my last name was Ho. No matter how well I did in school or how many awards or scholarships I won, I never saw myself as worthy or successful if no one liked me. I struggled a lot socially. I was never popular. And somehow always had a hard time making friends in school. In fact, going to school gave me so much anxiety. Not the academic part but the “who could I sit next to on the bus?” part.
So from a very early age, I linked people liking me to my weight and my weight to my success and my success to my happiness.
As you know, childhood scars have a way of sticking with you forever, especially if you never knew you were scarred to begin with. So when I started posting my Pilates videos on YouTube and I got my first fat comment, it brought me back to those middle school days where those popular girls would make fun of me in the locker room, and those boys would pretend they didn’t see me when the slow dance songs came on. That comment made me cry from my gut. The kind of cry where you can’t breathe, with your lips quivering. The kind where you can’t make a sound because you have nothing left to give. I felt like a worthless, ugly piece of trash that was too fat to do anything good. I hated my body for doing this to me. I hated that my body was the source of my unhappiness.
If you look at my videos and pictures since 2009, you can see that I was never actually what most Americans would call fat, but when you’re in the fitness space and you don’t have ab lines, you’re fat. That’s just the truth of the fitness industry. I don’t think it’s fair, but my body became a walking billboard for my programs. So no matter how good my workouts made you feel, the judgment was that my workouts didn’t work or that I was a bad instructor because my body wasn’t as lean or as toned as other fitness influencers.
Somehow, the media ended up labeling me as a body positive activist simply because I didn’t have ab lines and was teaching fitness so “bravely” on YouTube like it was an act of courage or something. It wasn’t something I set out to do. My focus was always to be a good instructor. Not a good Asian instructor. Not a good “fat” instructor. Not a good female instructor. Just a good instructor trying to spread the joy of fitness.
But you know what, even though it wasn’t my intention, I am proud to have helped in some way with the body positive revolution in the fitness space. The revolution helped me embrace my body too – because I needed healing from the years of built up hatred towards my own body.
It was during this time that I began to lose focus.
I began catering to my audience instead of leading them. People began to get upset when I posted workouts or healthy recipes because they said that I was contributing to diet culture and I was making them feel bad for not working out hard enough or not eating healthy enough. So, I got scared of upsetting my now very woke, very body positive audience. So I made my workouts looser, I stopped sharing what I actually ate, and I eventually became this boring vanilla cupcake that was terrified of doing anything because I was scared of upsetting people. I even stopped blogging because I felt like anytime I had even a hint of an opinion, someone was offended. I felt paralyzed.
As you can see right here – I’ve always put too much value on what people think of me. As a child, I made this flawed connection between my self-worth, my success, and my happiness…and this is how it played out: I became a slave to people’s opinions of me.
Well, as you guys know, it was August 2019 when I broke. I couldn’t take it anymore, so I went on a 90 Day Journey to do all the things no one wanted me to do. I was going to rediscover myself and get in the best shape of my life, mentally and physically. And yeah, that meant losing weight, talking about scales, talking about what I ate, and being really REAL with my fans.
I’m not going to repeat the hurtful things people said, but people were really, really cruel. All over the internet, I was reading some of the meanest things I’ve ever read about myself. I didn’t expect hate like that, but you know what – if there was ANYTHING I was going to lose on my 90 day journey, it was going to be all the people who didn’t love me for me.
Well after 90 days of being super authentic to myself, blogging every single day no matter how tired I was, working out for me and no one else, and eating how I wanted to eat regardless of what anyone said – I ended up achieving what I set out to do. I found who I was again, I rediscovered my purpose, I got in the best shape of my life, and I was overflowing with confidence. This confidence ended up leaking over into my business, my personal relationships, and overall gave me exactly what I was looking for – it gave me myself back. It was magic.
But wouldn’t you know…the haters came back to hate.
First I was too fat. Now I’m just too skinny.
I am sick of having my body define who I am!
When I was “fat”, my workouts were so inspiring and so body positive.
Now that I am “skinny”, my workouts apparently cause women to have eating disorders and subscribe to diet culture.
Are you kidding me????
I am literally the same Cassey Ho with the same intention of being a good instructor trying to spread the joy of fitness. That has NEVER changed. But somehow the narrative around me changed because of the way my body – a vessel – just a physical vessel – has changed.
I am sick of people trying to villainize me for things because of the way I look. I can’t even share an honest “what I eat in a day” video without nutritionists shaking their heads at me. I remember sharing recipes and food tips when I was heavier and no one even batted an eye. It was inspiring when I was “fat” and now it’s irresponsible because I am “skinny”.
You know what’s irresponsible? Diagnosing someone you don’t even know with an eating disorder when they don’t have one.
Do you know how damaging it is to finally heal from something only to be told you’re still damaged? I hear it so much sometimes I almost believe it!
You guys know that I’ve been VERY open about having orthorexia after my bikini competition, but it’s like people think that once you have an ED you’re forever damaged.
It took me years to mend my relationship with food but now I am here and I’ve finally found my peace. You need to understand that maybe my peace looks different than your peace because maybe my goals look different than your goals. You cannot compare 2 people that are incomparable. Your conclusions will be faulty and useless.
And you know what? Useless is exactly what those comments attacking my body are to me. They serve zero purpose in my life and bring no positivity to me, to my family, or to you guys.
I just had to get this off my chest because if you are reading this right now and you actually think I’m making content that is hurtful to you, then I really really really want you to unsubscribe. If you’re not viewing my content through a lens that can show you joy and good right in my videos, then I don’t want to be hurting you. Seriously. Sometimes relationships only last long enough for both people to get what they can out of it, and then that’s it. And that is ok. It’s the sad truth that I’ve come to realize as I’ve gotten older.
That’s all you guys. Just know that I will always be here, teaching Pilates, telling you guys my latest Trader Joe’s find, gushing over my favorite desserts, and telling you what color I painted my nails, whenever you need me. Love you.
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Do you boo boo. You will never be able to please everyone nor should you even try. Something, I have to remind myself often when I walk into the studio I teach Pilates.
THIS is exactly what I needed – someone being unexceptionally open about what they’re thinking.
I identify with you on many levels and I’m currently in at the beginning of my twenties and pretty discontent with my body.
When I was skinnier, my family would tell me I’m too skinny.
Although I don’t have people telling me I’m fat, I know that now I weigh a lot more then I used to back then.
At the moment I struggle with mental health a lot. I’m easily stressed and I frequently feel lost in life, not knowing where to go or even if I’m on the right path. It’s freaking hard for me and I’m boy I’m struggling but I feel like no one really takes me seriously. I feel so lonely most of the time although I do have some friends (I’m a little introverted but when I’m comfortable I open up and become vivid like a playful puppy – btw this also happens when I’m feeling confident).
Fighting against chronic stress is draining and I know that I’m super young but I can’t help it.
I know that stress keeps you from losing weight (studying nutrition here) and I know that you although you have to work hard in life to reach your goals, can’t FORCE things. At some point I’m also fighting against myself. My thoughts are not the healthiest or let me put it another way – I don’t choose the healthier ones.
I am seeing a therapist and I know that results don’t come overnight but I just feel like nothing works.
It’s not that way, I am aware that I just focus on the “wrong” side but fake-optimism actually makes it worse – I just don’t feel those affirmations. My stress level is probably too hard for it them to work or I need to be more patient.
Sorry, I think I digressed a little.
I’d like to ask you for some tips – maybe anecdotes from when you were in your twenties.
Anyway, back to the post.
It’s full of truth and I admire you for being vulnerable and opening up instead of glossing-up or playing down the hate people carry in their hearts and fire at others (especially on the internet where it’s so easy to hate on others because you’re not looking anyone straight in the eye – I still can’t believe how cowardly and cruel people can be smh).
Really, I appreciate you sharing your thoughts and how painful it is for you.
Sending you lots of love and good vibes
Lisa
Hey!
Honestly, I can relate. At the moment I am going to 8th grade and people look at me like I’m some sort of alien. I don’t think about the words they use and starts bodyshaming me. These days, there are all these high beauty standards and no one cares about you achievements. Eve. Though my Bmi isn’t high or my weigh is normal, they always compare me to those who are skinnier. Because of them,I am uncomfortable to wears things others wear. I am not as beautiful and skinny, but I can do a lot of things they can’t.
Cassie,
People can be so awful. They probably feel bad about themselves which is why they attack and shame you. Look at all you have accomplished. How many you have inspired, motivated, and helped. I never write comments, but I wanted you to know that I really think you are awesome! I did P90X, Insanity, and other things prior to doing some of your workouts and most recently a challenge, and I have to say I was excited to try your pilates. I thought I would be okay at it, but the truth is I sucked for a lot of it. I knew I was not flexible but still, there were and are just some moves I struggle with still. I recognized that these moves work your body in different ways. They are hard, but I am going to keep going.
I watch and listen to you in all your vides—regardless of when they are from—and I am motivated and inspired. You are crushing hard moves, looking perfect, and smiling! While I am red in the face, shaking in the arms, legs, or core, and there you are the picture of perfection rooting me on.
I am in awe of what you do and what you have accomplished, and I think it is awesome! Forget those negative people. They are toxic. They need to recognize and work through their own issues.
You keep doing you! I’ll keep trying too.
Dear Cassie,
You are an amazing woman. You help me so much everyday feeling good about myself. You taught me to be kind to myself, and even if it was your only good action (and it is clearly not) you would already deserve a medal. Thank you for being so brave, so so brave, by putting aside your doubts and your fears to post your videos, to share with us and to help us.
I have watched your videos for a long, long time and I have never felt anything other than that you are an amazing teacher and a great person. It’s funny, I don’t blame society and men for wanting to be in shape like most of the comments I see in this, I have wanted to do it for myself. I want to feel strong, look good and feel confident in a bodycon dress, and have endurance and stamina to do the things I want to do in life. Men are great but this is for me. 😉
I’ve never watched any of your stuff but I’ve heard about you. I appreciate all of what you said here and largely agree with all of it…that being said I do have to point out that you’re hosting a channel/blog that’s ENTIRELY about physical appearance. The fitness industry that you’re in is literally defined by what people look like, however much you might want it to be about health. If it were truly about health none of these YouTubers would be working out in tiny curated outfits with full make-up. So to hear someone who has chosen to work in this industry and perpetuate the obsession with what girls are eating and how they should look and then turn around and complain about how you’re judged entirely for you appearance seems a little victim-y. You had issues with your body growing up. Would it have helped you to see perfect bodied YouTubers telling you everything you’re doing wrong? I genuinely believe you want to help people but the truth is that for girls who have issues with their bodies, including you, the best thing most of them can do is to focus on literally anything other than what they eat or how toned they are. And no I’m not validating unhealthy obese culture. But girls should be spending their time learning physics, philosophy, mechanics, music…. literally anything that isn’t about their body. Men and society will fixate on that enough without you guys making it worse. It’s not an insult to you personally, but I think that’s why you’ll never find peace in this space. You can preach about being more than a body in a field that only cares about appearance.
It’s very sad to see the way you’re shaming a woman for being bullied and harassed online. If this blog and rest of her channel is about anything, it’s about being HEALTHY, not about being physically attractive or acceptable. Naturally, you wouldn’t know this since you’ve never seen any of her content and are judging her based off of this one blog post where she’s being vulnerable and honest about her mental health. You see her looking good and feeling good and pass judgement on her character, and it’s disappointing. Working out in a trash bag is rather impractical, Ann, and there’s nothing wrong with putting effort into your appearance if it makes you feel good. Pilates obviously isn’t the end-all cure-all for body image issues, but it’s thoroughly helped Cassey, and it can help other young girls struggling with feeling confident. Girls should spend their time doing whatever makes them happy, and if that includes pilates (of all things for you to be upset about girls doing, exercising and staying healthy is one of them?), then let girls do pilates! Honestly, men and society will fixate on and harass us women regardless, so we might as well be happy and choose to be our best selves for our own sake, even in the face of sexism like yours.
I don’t think it’s very fair for you to say all these things, Ann. Sure, pilates doesn’t fix everything for everybody but it’s really helped Cassey and it’s helped many other girls as well. Men and society will fixate us women, but that’s their problem. The least that women can do is things that make them feel happy. And for Cassey, if that’s doing pilates in make-up and form fitting clothes then let her do it! Men and society will say what they want, and people don’t need women that are no different then them judging them based on what they do. So if you’re going to be commenting on this when it’s clearly a sensitive topic for Cassey, then at least be nice about it. Judging her based on pictures on the internet and what other people say isn’t a justifiable reason to be, well, judge-y. If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all. And clearly, the option YOU should’ve taken, is to not say anything at all.
you are an inspiration. not a body shamer. i am thankful for someone who speaks out. even when we are all silenced.
Hey Cassey, you are strikingly similar to me in personality.
It is a WEAKNESS to revolve your self-worth around others’ opinions, but stems from the STRENGTH of being a person that seeks connection from people.
Extroverted, people-person, call it what you want but it is a force to be disciplined in a world where people want to destroy you verbally for everything you’ve ever done.
The only way to tame the beast is to arm yourself against it, however that may be. People aren’t going to “Be Kind”, no matter how many bumper stickers are out there.
I take a similar approach to yours, where I’m just going to put in the work and how ever I look is a result of that work, therefore I cannot accept hate (or especially hate myself for it).
Thanks for everything! You have way more fans than you think.
Cassey, you are so awesome. i have been doing your workouts for a little but, and i am no where where i want to be, but you are so encouraging and push others to be the best version of themselves, no matter what that means for each individual person. what others think doesnt matter. if people think that because you are in awesome shape, and you love yourself for whatever reasons you do personally, and that that means that youre BODYSHAMING people and forcing others into an unhealthy lifestyle, then they are the fools. you are encournaging a HEALTHY physical and mental LIFESTYLE, and allowing room for each person to be different according to their own life. you are so gorgeous ans such an uplifter and anyone who says otherwise isnt seeing you correctly. we all love you and are so thankful for you!!:))
Is really is frustratin having other people telling you what they think about YOUR body. It’s nonsense, I love your channel, I saw you on tik tok and started watching on YouTube a few weeks ago. I’m doing some of your workouts…I love it . It feels so painful but I’m new to this. I still kinda have no idea what pilates is but the workouts feel good and I know I need to do more research lol. Reading this made me feel so sad but I’m glad you came back so so strong. Love you!!
Hi Cassey! I’m new to your workouts as of January 2022. I did your glow up challenge and now I’m doing your 21 day challenge- day 10💪🏼. Like you my body has varied from very fit and toned to curvier and I’ve struggled with body image issues and eating problems. I’m currently trying to loose the baby weight so I can be healthy and energetic for my kids and reduce my risk of diabetes. (Had it twice while pregnant) I just wanted to say I find you super inspiring and I never feel shamed for not being able to go harder or not keeping up with you all the time. I have quit some programs because of the toxic message hidden behind the guise of health (so many beachbody programs). Those messages mess with my head. From you I get this super positive vibe about doing it for confidence and health not diet culture. It feels more based on loving yourself than hating a jiggly part. Your videos have been a breath of fresh air for me and I’ve had no problem doing one almost every day because I look forward to your joy and love the asides about TJs and your puppy and your hate of butterflies. Just wanted to offer some appreciation in the world of internet criticism.
I’ve been doing your workouts since 2016 and they always kill me!! (In the best way) And you’re absolutely the best pilates instructor I’ve ever had, even after going to a real life in-person class I still prefer your videos more! Just wanted to say you’re amazing and doing a great job!!
I read this a while back and I just read it again… I feel like so many of us feel the way you did. I’m so glad you are in a better place. I have Always struggled with my body image and my body equaled my self worth… I look back at pictures from like 10 – 15 years ago, and I had such a bad view of my self and there was nothing wrong with me… I was pretty and my body looked great. Now 10-15 years later I still struggle! Ugh… I need to work on it. I don’t feel down ALL the time, but I’m not happy with who I see. Can you believe a 37 year old woman still feels this way?!?! Ugh… anyways, loved your post. You are so real and you just put it out there and I appreciate it. Thank you ❤️
you look very healthy now I’m so glad you could find yourself and change to the better Ive had to learn not to care what others think or say about me and if you ever end up reading this all i want to say is I’m glad you are happy know p.s Americans are very UN healthy
This was such an honest and brave post. You sound like you’ve reached that most elusive point of just being who you are and not caring about what anyone says or thinks. I completely agree. Some people will never consider you (insert random projection of issues they’re dealing with) enough.
You do you girl.
You helped me get stronger after my first baby was born 6 years ago. And I’m back here after my second is 4 and I’ve been through my own personal trials and challenges over the years. I’m glad you’re still here.
I dont like it when people think fat is good. You only get one body so take care of it dont get fat its not good for you. Thank you Cassy for taking care of your body
Her entire post was about not judging people based on their bodies and size. And that’s exactly what you’re doing by shaming fat people. You may want to re-read the post…
I just want you to know that you were not too fat or fat at all in the “too fat” picture and you are not too skinny in the “too skinny” picture. You’re beautiful in both pictures!!! People are just lost in their own bs and you just need to keep being you bc you’re awesome! I really enjoy your content and appreciate you!
Thank you for this! Pushing past the people pleasing thing is very hard to do! I am still working on it! I just want to say how very thankful I am for your workouts! My friend introduced me to them and for several months now I have been following your monthly workout plan and doing at least 30 minutes of workout six days a week. I don’t think I’ve ever kept up staying active this long and it is because of you! I truly appreciate having my workout week planned out! I am focusing on staying active and being stronger. I have been staying off the scale because I know that my eating has not been as focused and I know that I always roll my eyes when you remind us it’s 80% what you eat 😂, but I need that reminder so that I can kick my butt in gear and start feeding my body healthy things on a more regular basis! You are so encouraging in your workouts and so real! You make me smile! Sending you hugs for the days when the bad comments get you down and praying the positive comments far outweigh the negative!! You are loved!!
Hi Casey,
As a fat dancer (like actually fat) and someone who has also gone through, and is still healing from, an eating disorder I just wanted to say I love your content. There are some things I leave like measurements and food tracking because it doesn’t work for me and my goals aren’t to lose weight. They’re to be flexible, and strong, and emotionally happy, and to sleep better. But I follow you not only because you’re a great instructor but because you use plus-sized models in your PopFlex photos, you honestly talk about how having goals of not losing weight is okay if that’s your journey, and because you’re the ONLY fitness influencer I’ve ever seen talk about how to love your body where it is and about how dessert is okay! I followed other influencers for a while that majorly contributed to my eating disorder because I was fearing food and not eating. Your content is much more inclusive, much more accessible, and much more real. I just wanted to say keep being true to you because you inspire me.
Dearest Cassey, I just saw your video you made to your subscribers. People can truly be so disappointing. I started following you several years ago than stopped for my own personal reasons of not staying fit. Heck life just gets in the way is all. Started doing caregiving for others and not myself and now at the point where I need to get myself back. Today I looked you up as someone I appreciated on YouTube years ago and saw this. I have done serious inventory these past couple years on what and who really make a difference in the truest sense and are of absolute value to my well-being and even though some realizations can be hard to accept, it’s a matter of you who has to take care of you. I am a spiritual person and I have faith that I’ve come to be in a place and time for my purpose as I hope you are too. I don’t know you personally but I appreciated you as being a special person who truly cared to guide me and others on fitness goals years ago and so happy to see you still here for me now. Thank you Cassey…. Let the haters hate and please, you do you. One has to take ownership and accountability both good and bad so it’s not on you to be responsible for issues that others put themselves in. You are an awesome fitness instructor, IMO and I look to you for that, not as a doctor or counselor or personal assistant but to guide me on an exercise style that works for me! Thanks for all of your content and for your truth Cassey :))
Beautifully written! You are sharing your authentic self and more people should be inspired to do the same!
I first found you before your 90-day journey, and I didn’t know what had happened then cause I thought your content was great. I’m so glad and proud that you’ve overcome it. I know of people who are gg through similar situations, and I’m sharing your story with them and telling them that maybe they need to do a similar self-discovery journey to lose their haters and overcome them. You are an inspirational Ho, and you are loved so much for it. <3
You’re amazing! As someone who grew up with a similar experience dreading school and not having a lot of friends during those “awkward years” I can relate all too well to a lot of what you said. As a recovering “people pleaser” who has wanted to be liked by everyone for most of my life, I’ve wasted years adjusting / removing content from my own platforms so that everyone will approve and no one will get triggered (which led to me showing up very “vanilla” or sometimes not at all).
Honestly the nutrition world is LOUD right now and as a functional dietitian who helps people to heal themselves naturally with a “food as medicine’ approach that WORKS… I think the health-at-every-size movement has gone too far when people from that world are criticizing and ostracizing anyone who is “thin” or doesn’t eat “normal” enough. It’s scary to be ourselves when so many unhappy people can be so critical. Hats off to you for sharing your story and being an amazing kickass pilates instructor through all of that!
Love this post and all of your content! I’m so glad you don’t have to hold yourself back or dim yourself for others anymore. Only you know what’s right for your health.
you are so amazing Cassey. never stop doing and being you. you inspire millions of us everyday. forget the rest 🙂 lots of love. PS you look amazing. always have.
Cassey, I can’t thank you enough for pushing through all the hate because you are the best instructor I’ve ever encountered. Your workouts are hyper effective, I love following your exercises, I’m shaping up and feel super motivated to get moving. You’re a life changer so please Please keep doing you ❤️
Thank you <3
You have nothing to be ashamed of or care about what others think. I just started following you and think you are motivating and try to help those hatters because they are overweight and unhappy. Happy people do not put mean out there and hurt people because their lives are not fulfilled. Keep up what you are doing and pray for those who are unhappy with themselves. Women always hate on others women especially when they hide behind screens
How do i get your meal plans?
You can find them at the90dayjourney.com!
Cassey! I do your workouts on the fiton app. Pilates day is my favorite because you are a GREAT pilates instructor! I am sore and content when I finish your workouts. Also, I want to try a matcha crepe cake 😄 Thank you for being you–no matter your size or shape!
YOU GO CASEY! As long as you are happy and healthy, that’s what counts. Hater will hate! At the end of the day this channel is about you and your journey and your intention of instruction! I’m sure you inspire so many people by just being you! Please do not let the haters stop you, hopefully one day they’ll learn to love themselves too! For now, keep being you! Sending love!
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You’re such an I speciation and you have to be in your own skin!!! Screw what other people say you are beautiful inside and out!!! ❤️
Hey Casey!
Firstly, it’s so brave of you to pour all your feelings like this on your blog. We seriously need more authentic people like you!!
Secondly, I just want to share my forst impression of you and it was just that ‘She has such good vibes’, I mean doing workouts with your videos is so much fun!! And take it from someone who dreads working out.
So much love to you🤍
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Hey Cassey,
Its been a long time since I follow you and a huge fan of yours. Cassey one request, I think it’ll be better if you add ‘one week Period workout plan’, because I get a lot of pain during my Periods but want to do some sort of simple workouts. So it’ll be great if you can create one such plan for us..
Love you:)
So articulately said and so brave. V thought provoking. Let’s hope for the right people who need it to be thought provoking too. Well done for speaking out Cassey & thanks for inspiring us
Hi Cassey,
I’ve been working out diligently since last year. At first I avoid any glutes excercise but I still performed squats and lunges for my leg workout. My hips became flatter but it’s flabby fats hence I decided to train my glutes. Now, my hips became uplifted, perky and looks bigger. I am a pear-shaped person hence I always have a bigger hips. Given that I’m only 5’2 with thick thighs and short limbs, I look short and my hips often attract people’s attention. Some people would use my hips to body shame me as ‘fat’ plus I have broad shoulders, I don’t look slim or small as how the standard typically demands. The worst part is some men simply stare at my hips without slightest guilt to enjoy the view as if I’m an object for display. Some others would disgustedly stare to generalize me as ‘fat’. I want to be proud of myself for all the hardwork and self-discipline which gives me a perky big hips and I want to feel safe but I don’t know what’s the right thing to do. Should I slim down my hips but I don’t want a small flabby hips yet I can feel a bit safer but why must I cater to the society’s standard when this is just myself that doesn’t harm anyone. What’s wrong with having uplifted trained hips? Or should I really tone it down?
Sincerely,
A confused person.
You look simply wonderful !!! So just f ck them
Thank you for being who you are and putting what is probably endless time & energy into helping others achieve what they want/dream. Your goodness shines through in everything. I’m late to the Blogilates/PopFit/app/insta party – but I’m SO glad I showed up.
Your website is awesome and I love your videos. Thank you so much for your positivity and encouragement.
Hi Cassey! I’ve followed you on and off since your early days doing Pop Pilates, I believe I discovered your channel in 2011, and I never knew any of this about your childhood. It seriously made my heart hurt for you. You are such a beautiful person with a beautiful soul. Keep doing YOU! Sending you love and support always! ❤️
I feel like everyone has the opportunity to lose weight or be healthy. And these “privileges” are mad e up for lazy people to keep walking through life and blaming their problems ons society. 1/3 adults are overweight in the US alone., There are health risks directly associated with being overweight its an acual scientific problem.
I just discovered your app and have been loving your workouts!! I love that you’re so perky and happy – it makes the workout more fun! Your story is inspiring, and I hope you keep sharing your amazing content, regardless of how cruel people can be. You are making a difference in the world! 💕
In November of 2009 I started my weight loss journey to just get healthy I was at 380lbs at 5 feet tall. I had just left an abusive relationship where he used my anorexia to control me and when I left I didn’t want to fall onto my old bad habits of anorexia so, I did a lot of work to make sure I was eating enough (all about that math lol) and finding good workouts that weren’t hurting me. I don’t know when I found your videos but, it was around the beginning of 2011 and they helped me because they were challenging but, your upbeat demeanor helped me to not feel like a failure if I couldn’t do something right then. From November of 2009 to December 2012 I had lost over 200lbs of fat. In February of 2013 I found out I was pregnant something, they had told me for over 10 years at that point would never happen for me. The doctors believe it was because I took my health into my hands and not only lost weight but, did so, slowly and with purpose changing small things with my nutrition and never denying myself treats and truthfully a lot of that was because of finding you at a time when I was ready to give up and lose weight the way I knew I could quickly. I hope if you read this it reminds you that you are doing so, much good in this world.
Dear Cassey, I am in my late 50s and have taken aerobics classes twice weekly since I was in college, but I quit exercising in March 2020 when the pandemic hit and my classes were canceled. I have quit exercising. I have been feeling terrible lately at how out of shape I have become! Today I discovered your workouts and did two short ones this evening. Already I feel better about myself and have made a commitment to do at least one of your workouts daily to see it I can get back in shape! I am so happy to have found your site. Thanks so much! –Shoshanna
Cassey, don’t EVER let the opinions of haters matter!!! There is nothing wrong with taking care of yourself and being healthy. People who hate are triggered and want their insecurities catered to by the whole world, as if anything that triggers their insecurities is wrong and everyone should be that way. Those people are lost and don’t matter!! The rest of us are here supporting you and being inspired! You will NEVER please everybody and you shouldn’t think to do so. Never forget what your mission is and who you do this for! Keep believing in yourself and don’t doubt what you know is right! We love you, xo
I just want to say that I am LOVING your workouts. I am in my 50’s and I mostly relied on running for the last 20 years to keep me fit. BUT I realized that I lost a LOT of muscle strength over the past few years and I’ve been gaining wait even though I still ate and exercised the same. I decided to try your workouts because I really want to gain my core strength back. Your workouts are killing me 🙂 but I’m getting stronger. Society puts impossible demands on women. We just have to do what’s best for ourselves and do it for ourselves and no one else.
YAYY thank you for sharing!!!
i’ve been watching your videos for sooo long (call me maybe squat challenge, anyone?!) and you’ve always been so kind and inspiring no matter what. we love you!
I’ve just rediscovered you and your videos recently, since I am on a self healing and growing journey and I love you. You are an inspiration, the words and ideas you just shared are so beautiful and powerful, because they are 100% you. Unapologetically. Chapeau to that, as the French would say! You are definitely a role model and a fierce woman with a wonderful soul and I love to have you as a virtual mentor and trainer. I feel very lucky and will keep on let you kick my butt, and arms, and core and whatever other muscle groups you decide to train, because it brings me joy. And more importantly, it brings me closer to a better version of myself EVERY SIGNLE DAY, no matter what other people might think or say.
You are so amazing and inspiring to me! I have been watching your channel and following your journey since I was in 6th grade and now I am in 11th grade. Your positivity helped me to gain self-confidence about my body and inspired me to make my own girls’ empowerment organization to inspire girls globally. I can’t thank you enough for always being there to encourage me to become the best and healthiest version of myself possible. I will always support you and all of your positive fitness endeavors! ❤️❤️
Wow, that was so meaningful and truthful, thank you! You’re beautiful and kind and you’re such an inspiration. lysm
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Well said! I’m just sorry you had to go through that 😞
I’ve been following your workouts since 2016, however have watched some of your videos you made before then too and I think your message all along has been pretty clear – when it comes to exercise, do what you love, and don’t let other people negatively influence your choices. Your 90 Day Journey was such an inspiration to me, not just the physical part of it, but the attitude of screwing what other people think and doing what makes you HAPPY and feel good! I actually took a lot of what you learned into consideration on my own personal fitness goals, such as that sometimes tracking your calories (in a healthy, statistical way) is what you need to get on track with eating, and working out because you want to look and feel good and have some physical goals is okay! I understand some people are triggered by this and it isn’t healthy for them to do this, but everyone is different and should do what is best for them! As long as you’re healthy and doing what you love and not hurting anyone else in the process, all the power to you. Keep doing what you’re doing!
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I’ve added your videos to the mix of how I work out for years, but 2020 and quarantine has been the first time I’ve followed your calendar fully, and I feel great! I’ve had two ACL surgeries (many years ago) and both an appendectomy and a wrist surgery to top off this insane year, and you’ve helped me feel strong. Pilates is great for people who need to work around injuries. I say that as both a personal trainer and a fan.
Omg thank you so muchhh for writing about this for realll…. I get the same sort of comments, just usually about my body from guys, and I actually got an eating disorder cuz of it:( thank you so much this article actually really helped me out, i needed that rn:)
Cassey, don’t believe ANY of those mean comments because they are just not true! I am 10 years old and your workouts and recipes have made me become more body positive, healthier, stronger, and more confident. xoxo
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You gotta stop reading all the comments, girlfriend. It’s killing you, it’s killing me, and the ‘fans’ who put you down aren’t who you want or need in your life anyway. Like bitchy school girls, don’t bother trying to get their approval or make them see – they’ve clearly got their own issues. You’re seriously amazing. xxx
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Hey Cassey,
I totally understand about being bullied about weight. For me, it was because I was “too skinny.” I was always called a stick or people would ask if I was eating enough. I would try and explain that my doctor said I was healthy, but many people didn’t seem to understand. It got especially bad in eighth grade when a girl in my class was constantly bullying me about my weight and talking about me to others behind my back. For a couple years I wore baggy sweatshirts every day even in 90 degree weather because she had made comments about my arms being so thin. Eventually I learned to just embrace myself the way I am, but I still struggle sometimes and hope that one day I will have more confidence. You are a huge inspiration for me!
I’m sorry you’ve had to go through so much, it’s awful that successful people that do what they love and share it with the world have to deal with this stuff! I hope that for every negative comment you get a few positive ones to outweigh them.. You are THE BOMB!
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Do NOT let the haters get to you Casey! You have been inspiring in all your forms since 2009. Haters are just going to hate, that’s the way they roll. I also bet they haven’t lifted a knee off their couch. If they are unahppy or have body dysmorphic issues, you are NOT the cause. We live in a society that elevates 14 year old models, that expects 21 year old models to keep the figure of a pre-pubescent girl. I think you have shown that you can be happy however you are. Your 90 Day Journey blogs were real and raw. I think you were honest. I don’t thnk you once said, you all have to do this NOW! So, just do what you do and don’t worry about the rest. Social media is the best and the worst. Maybe let your important people screen out the ugly and you can focus on the happy comments and the constructive not mean critiques. Keep on keeping on!
Thanks so much for sharing Cassey. <3
I don’t understand why the issue is here in the first place. To exercise in a gym or at home or at all is a personal choice and should be respected as that. From the videos that I have viewed it seems that you just want your body to be strong and healthy. You also have videos that focus just on the exercise portion. I appreciate this, because I am already comfortable with my current spirituality and growth for my personal future. But I need instruction in the exercise portion. If people don’t like your videos they should just go somewhere else they do like.
Cassey, literally, people will just pick on anything they can get their hands on. That’s just how bullies are. Personally, I don’t care what you look like— I’m just happy that you’re living your best life. Have a great year!
Cassey, Have you ever thought of going on a social media fast? President Russell M. Nielson of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints has challenged women around the world to go on a 10-day social media fast, and a fast from any negative media influence in our lives. You may never see this message. But if you do just know that you are loved. You are important to many. But you are most treasured by our Heavenly Father.
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Hi Casey, my name is Aly and I’m full time college student trying to get into medical school. My mom and I have been following your videos since the early 2000s and I just wanted to let you know that your videos have literally been a god send. With my busy and stressful schedule, your videos have become my way to destress and keep up with my physical health. I was also diagnosed with an autoimmune disease when I was 16 and during that point of my life, I was in a dark time and felt too sick and too weak to exercise but I started back up on your videos and they’ve helped me overcome my own insecurities and made me feel more confident in myself. This was all before COVID too! Now I’m especially thankful for you and all your hardwork because my family and I workout to your videos together during quarantine and they’ve become a way for us to bond with one another and support each other. I know you’ve had a long and painful journey, but I’ve been following you for most of it and have seen your transformation and just wanted you to know that I’m extremely thankful for how dedicated you are to your work and all of us who follow you. Seeing how far you’ve come and hearing about your 90 day challenge had taught me that nothing is impossible and that working out shouldn’t be about living up to others expectations but about doing it for yourself and taking your health into your own hands. Thank you again and I hope this message finds you well amidst all the negativity you’re receiving!
First of all, thank you Cassey for your effective and challenging workouts, and your positive and uplifting personality. I discovered you on YouTube, and you are one of the only fitness instructors I follow. Listen, thank you for being GENUINE. Thank you for sharing your struggles with us. To hell with the haters online! People will always find idiotic, immature reasons to hate others because they suffer from their own self-hatred. They hate how a person’s body looks, how a person’s face looks, what colour your skin is, what gender you are, what religion you are, and on and on it goes. This is why I hate social media and think it should disappear from the world. Cassey, you were beautiful in 2009, and you are a beautiful person still. Your confidence gives us confidence, and your strength gives us strength. I have always been very shy and lacked confidence in myself until I reached my thirties. It was in the last several months that I realized that speaking up against hate, and despite the haters was one of the most powerful things you could do to affect positive change. That is what you have done. So please, do not change yourself. Keep doing your important, fun and motivational work. You are strong, beautiful, and an inspiration to so many of us.
First of all, I want to congratulate you Cassey with all my heart that you are finally at a place where you can be yourself. Being at peace with your own self is wonderful. I found out your channel a month ago. And I love how you interact with the audience. Your personality is what makes you so likeable and unique! Keep on being inspiring to us from all over the world! I am genuinely happy for you and happy to have found you.Loads of love from India💞
You are such an inspiration! Your videos make me feel strong, and as do them, I feel like you’re right next to me, rooting for me. Thank you so much! What you do is a gift! You’re absolutely right, hateful comments have no place and no right to upset you!
YAY you ARE strong and I am always next to you, rooting for you!!
Cassey, I know we don’t know each other IRL but I have so much love for you. I have been watching your videos since 2010 when I was in high school, struggling with a lot of the very same issues you just mentioned. I have always considered you a beautiful, authentic role model who truly loves what she does and cares about her fans. I am so sorry people are being so cruel. Thank you for speaking out and I am sending you so much love!
Big big big hugs <3
You’re an inspiration, Cassey. It is so valuable to be able to see your fitness instructor as a real human, which is something you offer and that almost none do. It’s motivating to read about your day to day journey because I can actually see a little of my self in each post or video. You do have courage for putting your videos and blog posts out there – not because there’s actually anything to be ashamed of, but because people are so mean and would have driven away the average person with their constant criticism. I admire you for continuing to do your work despite people’s best attempts to shut you down. And I’m grateful for all of the awesome workouts and recipes!!
Nothing in the universe is perfect or has the ability to reach perfection. That is what makes us beautiful. You look so incredibly healthy and just generally comfortable in your skin and so so happy. Dont let people who haven’t found their own personal peace with their bodies bring you down. I have been following along with you and I have never been comfortable with myself until now. I have cheat days without feeling bad because I know and understand my body. I never post my progress though because I see what happens to you and I dont think I could put up with it. You are so strong, mentally and physically. The bulk of us are cheering you on. I also can’t eat potato chips without thinking of you. 💜 💛 💚 🧡
I can relate to this – mostly caring too much about people’s opinion of me and especially my body. I’ve mostly been criticized by my family members too. I think it’s the reason I struggle with my weight – I lose it – I’m criticised for having no boobs and no butt- I put it back on I’m just criticised for being fat … thank you for your honesty in this blog – I’m trying to lose weight again after putting on 25 kgs (I’m Australian) due to people’s comments and I don’t want that to happen again. I don’t want to let people effect what I do with my body anymore. I am me and me is all I will ever be so if people cannot see the real me then it is not meant to be. Your workouts are fun and effective. I got in the best shape of my life because of you! But then I allowed the negative/jealous comments make me insecure and I gained weight again. I’m back now – hoping to repeat the positive weight loss journey I had prior with your energy and workout routines. I now see people who do these kinds of things to other people like crayfish in a bucket. If you stand out in that bucket and start to climb your way to the top, the other crayfish pull you down because they don’t want to be left behind or out-shone. Those women who said those horrible things to you are crayfish – they are jealous and threatened by you and your success and the psychological abuse women can project is just savage. Don’t let them dampen your light because they are too scared to try shining their own and only put their energy into putting others down to somehow elevate themselves (that’s all kinds of messed up). I think the fitness industry does set a very high standard that is unrealistic and does require a form of starvation and vigorous workouts to achieve. But when I lost my weight before, through your program, I did it healthily (mentally, psychologically and physically) and I achieved the body I WANTED. Thank you @CassieHo. You’re beautiful in every way and if I had of been around, I would have invited you to sit with me on the bus.
You’re my idol and imspiration Cassey! And I’ll tell you: when someone points a finger at you, for whatever reason, it’s pointing three fingers at itself! People will always find something to complain, specially those who cant accept and envy those who move foward and overcome! Be yourself always Cassey! People like you are the real superheroes of this world! (Sorry if I wrote something wrong, I’m brazilian) Love you!
“….and I eventually became this boring vanilla cupcake that was terrified of doing anything because I was scared of upsetting people.”
Wow, that was eye-opening. I definitely quiet who I really am because people always find away to put me down when I’m trying to be myself. I didn’t even tell a single friend that I went to Europe on my own when I was 24 because I knew there would be negative voices in my head or jealously. I have become a vanilla, cupcake who just agrees with everyone else and has no opinions because people can’t handle confidence! Ugh. I hide my dreams and goals because I can’t trust anyone to support me and I’ve molded my personality around others.
Sending you lots of hugs Cassey! I’ve been watching your videos since I was in college, so for about 7 years now and I can’t tell you how grateful I am that you continue to provide content for us to be the best version of ourselves. As someone who has had a complicated relationship with her weight, I’m still learning to appreciate how I’m made, the strength that I have, and am able to gain as I set health goals for myself. I can’t thank you enough for your help in that journey. I’m super happy to see that you’ve achieved the best version of yourself! Keep doing you, Boo! <3
I’m 51 and know I’m not looking to you for someone to try to look like or not look like. I’m looking to you for great exercise videos. I love your honesty and all the easy chat that makes the workout go faster. I know you have deep Er thoughts too but when I’m on the 50th leg lift, just the color of your nails or your new yoga mat is what I need.
I think I’m excited and hopeful that as you age (you will) you will keep being yourself and you will inspire your generation to be themselves. Keep getting it off your chest and don’t bottle it up. It will be beautiful to watch you age and share your thoughts on that too.
Johanna don’t you dare feel bad about yourself! I’ve been where you are and now the only person who’s opinion about my body is me! Don’t you know most people especially women and girls ( who pick it up from others, mostly familial) that talk about another’s body is jealous, has issues dealing with their own body image or are just plain hateful. Your exercise videos are great, informative and entertaining! I saw the inner thigh workout last spring and started working out. I now do arms and waist with you too. Thank you sooo much! Please don’t stop and don’t let the stupid insensitive remarks define your week, day or moment. There are many of us who love your exercise videos, and proof of your achievements should make a person join in not criticize. They can always stop at a weight they are individually comfortable. My Granny used to say ” if you have nothing good to say, say nothing!!
Hey Miss Cassey Ho. I am Susan Bartenfeld, 63 years young and just started following you. Where have you been all my life??? I read your story about body image. Boy did the bells ring and ring!! I totally understand where you were coming from. I have sooooo been there, and to some degree still am there. I have ALWAYS had a “pot” belly. Was teased BAD as a child. At the age of 13, this little ole lady stopped me in a store and asked me something about be pregnant. I cannot remember all she said. I was blown away, dazed and confused. And so ashamed !! I guess it was the top I had on, along with my “pot” belly. I think that was the straw that broke the back of me! Because I was teased about what I ate, how much, what, ect, I became a sneak eater!! These things have stuck with me through out my life. I have had weight problems all my life. I’d loose, regain, repeat. Once, when I was doing the “Rice Diet” I lost a lot of weight, looked and felt good. Then, like you, here came the “your to skinny” and on and on. Well, it broke my spirit on weight loss. I have done bits and pieces of weight loss since, but, not with the same intensity. I even did a 3 week juice fast. I loved it!! Lost a lot of weight, felt great!! Went of vacation, and the fast was history!! And came the weight back!! Yo Yo!! So, for the last years, I have yoyoed up and down, 30 down, 40 up ect. I was looking for something to catch my eye and help me!! Man the diet industry has made a fortune off me!! Then out of the blue Intermittent Fasting came into my focus. I was eating because family was. Didn’t want to hear, you need to eat. But, I was NOT hungry! Then, while watching TV I’d have this BIG bowl of ice cream, my reward. Well, I am somewhere around 5’4″ and got up to 210, FAT!! And of course, my “pot” belly is huge and floppy! Well, I started reading on IF. and it felt good!! It felt right!! I have been fasting now for 32 days. started out at 16:8, working towards a 24 hr fast. Up to the 20:4. I eat one meal a day OMAD, and feel WONDERFUL. Have lost 14 pounds. Have no idea the inches, but, things sure fit different. I also started my exercise program. I am doing elliptical and weights. I am so praying I can keep the Hate filled voices out of my head this time and keep the weight off. But, I am eating like my body wants!! I do feel a little hungry with I come off my fast, but, NOT starved! I eat a well balanced meal, protein, veggie ect. I am soooo tired of the haters leading my life!! But, this time, all I am doing is FOR ME AND ME ONLY!! Not for husband, who is very supportive, family or friends. But just for ME, Susan!! I am going to start doing the Pilates with my now friend Cassey Ho and looking forward to it!! Thank you for your testimony!! If could be mine. Let’s do this, together!!
Cassey, I found your YT chanel days ago… What really made me subscribe maybe 30 sec later,wasn’t your workouts ( I’m still studying them 🙂), but your bright and shiny personality. I absolutely understand what is to depend of the people’s opinion…. I’m 42 and found my self confidence just year and a half ago or something.
There always be haters, but when you feel bad – just look at the mirror, smile yourself, love yourself and let me tell you something I really believe- the hate is proportional to the good job you do😉. They will always hate you for the ability to set a goal, to pursue it till the end and to be proud of yourself. Don’t let mean women to blame you for their insecurities, fails or just lack of motivation and will.
Just shine, enjoy every part of you and don’t let them stop you
P.S please, excuse my bad English, it’s really far from my native language.
Cassey you’re the best instructor and a genuine positive influencer and a friend to someone who needs your content, nothing more nothing less in the best way possible.
You’re the first fitness influencer I started following and it changed my life, the motivation you give and your kind words always give me strength. Your smile has meaning to me. We’ll always be together on this journey.Even till the day when old lady Cassey says you guys this is the best matching baby blue yoga mat and rocking chair set or something crazy like that. Take care of yourself and keep smiling.
Also you should sooo make a new video reading all the positive comments you get. I’m sure you’ll feel a lot better acknowledging the love more than the hate.
With Love from India.
Cassey, you are brave and beautiful, but most importantly you are fun and inspiring. Your videos have so much energy and love in them – they always cheer me up, even when I feel like a workout is the last thing I want to do on a grey chilly London morning, after a bad night’s sleep, feeling low and achey – you make me feel better. Thank you so much. Please don’t ever stop – you’re amazing and so many of us love you.
Girl, you are so inspiring. I’ve been always inconstant in my workout routine, but when I follow your YouTube videos, I know I have to finish it, you are such an help because you make this endless journey really amousing and enjoyable. I really don’t know how to thank you. Keep going, your mind is beautiful. A big hug from Italy <3
hi Cassey!✌ this was so painful to read let alone write/ go thru!!! ur so strong and positive, I guess haters don’t discriminate. i know ur healthy and in a great place and i don’t wanna imply otherwise but my best friend had an ED three yrs ago and just developed a different type. even tho these ppl dont mean the best and they have some growth to be done; eating disorders can come back. ur a warrior and a queen! neva forget that…. sending luv❤❤❤
I ve been struggling with my weight and several eating disorsers for 8 years now even tho i am only 20. In the past i used to work out till i puked trying to burn as many calories as i could. It wasnt fun it was torturin myself. Because of this i became teryffied of the gym. I was avoiding it for 2 years being super unhappy with the way i look, feeling tired and ugly. I found your page some time ago and i was relifed. Your workouts, the way you look at fitness. All of it. It brought back the joy of moving, working out and my happines. Now i can exercise with my bestie loughing out loud or by myself without yhe fear of ceossing the line. I am so thankfull for what you do. Remember how much people you inspire and never let anyone distroy that. As you say yourself everybody is different but as long as we keep trying its all okay. I love you with all my heart and i wish you all the best. You are amazing, inspiring and simply the best
Like I said on the YouTube post , no one in this world is responsible for your happiness your achievements the best version of you , is who you choose to be . People can talk , let them talk, there will always be negeative people who don’t have a better life or who don’t want to make a change for themselves, so they pick on the ones who are making a change for their better health . I think that you Casey as an instructor should just ignore all those bad comments , and focuse on the people that you are reaching . So many love you still right now . If your skinny if your fat , if you eat healthier , etc.. that’s what really Matter. I love how unique you are , there are many instructors on YouTube , but I don’t change you for anything. See that’s what you should focuse on, being the best for you and only you! And on your way helping those who really want to make a change in their life’s , you have made a change in mine, you are unique and special , no one like you. Love you.
So happy for you loving yourself, loving your body and listening to it more. You look wonderful but most importantly you seem happy and healthy, which I hope is true! Sending love!
I think you are beautiful inside and out. Before, after and during. Be you. Acknowledge yourself, love yourself and detox your life of people that live vicariously through you. Thank you for sharing your journey.
Cassie, thanks so much for being a voice of reason in the insane internet. Seriously, thank you!! I love that you actually point out that having a diet plan doesn’t necessarily mean you have an eating disorder. I really appreciate you!!!
Why don’t you stop with the social media and teach privately??. You will never be accepted for who you are on any media platform. People judge harshly for whatever reason. They
You don’t need to be doing this or putting yourself through it.
Take control of your life again and stop putting it out there for trolls.
I am 30 and since high school I have yo-yo’d with my weight. And you’re absolutely right about looking ‘fat’ but you’re actually not and then meeting personal fitness goals that transition your body’s form just to be told you’re ‘too skinny’. It will never need good enough for others. The joke is on them. I’m glad you set out to do what you wanted. We already live in an extremely discriminatory fatphobic world. People can have the bodies they want, eat what they want as long as they’re happy. The haters have no where else to feed their egos. It’s sad. So glad you’re true to you.
Thank you for sharing this story Casey. Growing up I was a dancer and a 3 sport athlete. When I was running 9mi a week and dancing 2hrs a night while also playing softball or basketball I was told by so many I was too skinny, I didn’t eat enough because my mom would pack me protein packed salads for lunch or vegetable trays with hummus and cheese and crackers. But the second I stopped participating in those activities I became labeled as fat despite only being 5lbs heavier than I was as a MIDDLE SCHOOL athlete. I found your videos and fell in love, the reminded me of conditioning with my fellow dancers or training with my teammates and they made me happy. I still often fluctuate even now as a college student with being “too skinny” or “fat” because sometimes my schedule and stress level doesn’t allow for me to exercise in the way I want but when I do, even if it’s 15 minutes between zoom lectures, it’s your videos I’m watching and following along with. Thank you for sharing your journey and for letting me feel like I am a part of it.
Love your transparency. One thing I have learned is that we’ll never be able to please everyone, but as long as we are being true to ourselves that’s what matters.
I really have to say thanks to you. I joined fiton on a whim and saw your pilates workouts. I hadn’t done pilates for about 10 years after having kids but you helped me fall in love with it because of your passion and fun personality. Grateful for you and what you do. Don’t stop doing what you’re. Thanks Cassey! God bless you x
Cassey, try to understand that we grew up in a different generation. Around the ‘00s, you NEEDED to be skinny. Now being big is okay. It’s really confusing, but everyone with common sense already know by now, that your body changes if you workout.
I tell myself the same thing everyday. I was being bullied, for being fat and being too big.. and now.. the body that is popular now, I had that in the ‘00s. It’s confusing, I know. But remember, don’t let them hurt you. People feed off negativity. I have come to “know” you in 6 years now and you are really aspiring, even though we have a completely different body type. Just make yourself happy because you never can please everyone.
And turn off notifications. It helps💙
I’ve been doing your workouts all throughout college and have been so blessed by you & your content! May God bless you <3 psalm 23
Cassey I see you are different sizes in different videos and honestly you are 100% gorgeous in all of them. A fit body is beautiful at many sizes and your workouts are killer and have been transformational for me, so thank you for putting them out there. Sorry to hear you are getting this nonsense thrown at you. Some people have nothing better to do than criticize others on the internet I guess…
You are fabulous! Keep doing what you are doing. Your Pilates videos are so helpful to me. I discovered them this summer and I enjoy exercising with you. I’m so sorry you have been bullied by low minded people. I know it’s difficult to endure especially when you mean now harm and just want to share your knowledge and the benefits of exercise. It’s best to forgive these people and keep your eye on the Creator who loves you and all His creation. God bless you and stay strong. You are a positive role model for humanity.
Hey! You are beautiful and strong. I worked in PT for 13 years. I was a massage therapist for 4 years. Then I went to grad school to be a physician assistant. It wrecked my health. I was studying and not working out or sleeping. Not eating healthy. Then COVID-19 happened. I was forced to take a break. To quarantine. I discovered you on YouTube. You were a revelation! So familiar of the life I used to lead. Don’t let the haters change you. There will always be haters. Jealous of your confidence and success. See them for what they truly are. Pathetic and sad. Walk away with your head held high. Own what you have made. What you have earned. I recommend your videos all the time. You are accessible and real. Let their judgment wash over you like saltwater. And dry up and blow away. That is what their opinions are worth. Much love!
You are loved! I think you’re absolutely amazing and constant share tour videos with my friends because they want to know what I’ve been up to for exercise. I love your videos in particular because you are fun and cheerful AND incredibly strong. I have done your pleat (ohh spelling) over a hundred times! I love it! You’re so encouraging! I have noticed the changes in your body shape over the years…and i think you’re simply divine whichever shape you’ve been! You rock those moves regardless….which gives me endless hope ❤️ Keep doing what you’re doing! My prayer for you is for you to get hold of your inherent value and know your worth xx
Always found you inspring and super fit. Your workoiuts are challenging and my go to when I need to reset. I was a heavier kid and lost 87 lbs 15 yrs ago. My body is changing from Scleroderma, medications, and aging as I approach 50…but I try to be kind to it and accepting because it has taken me this far. I understand the struggle though. You are a beautiful, inspiring soul. Go easy on yourself, tune out the chatter, and be your best for you. You inspire so many!
You are a role model to all women around the world. Even though people have bullied you you still manage to be positive. Thank for being inspiring to so many people and not just me. Blogilates for life!
What’s ridiculous is that people always say “people come in all different sizes, shapes and colors”. Yet, it seems like many people can’t take or consider “slim” or “fit” people in that thought… body positivity isn’t just about accepting bigger or chubbier people. It’s about loving your own body and skin as is (as long as it’s not unhealthy). As long as one is healthy both mentally and physically that’s all that matters. Don’t let others bring you down for what makes you feel like you’re your own self and feel great. People need to understand more about mental and physical health and the balance of it is more important than anything!!
Hey Cassey!!!
First things first, I want to thank you for being yourself. I want to thank you for your work. And… I just want to thank you. For this video, for your workout videos… for everything
Growing up (and still being, kinda) chubby and nerdy and teased… I undersand and I feel your wounds. And your honesty here… brought me to tears. It is SO REAL.
Second, I want to thank you for giving me pernission to take my time and discover what works for me. To take my time to also be gentle, and kind to myself. Thank you for telling me that both the salad and the ice cream are welcomed on my plate.
And thank you for showing me how to stop hating my body for not listening to me, but insted *I* have to listen to my body and let it teach me how to love it.
I know that here should be the part of the message when I tell you that *haters gonna hate, but don’t listen to them*. But I know these words are surplus. So instead, I will only say that I am forever gratelful that people like you exist on this Earth (hopefully, one day, soon enough I will meet more)
In the end, the only thing left to say is: thank you for being. Here. And youself. And honest.
Looking forward for your next projects!!
Love you Cassey!!
Hi. I didn’t know you since the videos you made with Brie Larson but when I watched them I wanted to know you. I wanted to know you because I wanted you to save me (I’m french, I’m Black, I’m gonna get 30 soon and after surviving suicidal thoughts and depression I want to believe that). Since my younger age (kid) I was suicidal (life was a present that I didn’t want). That wasn’t link to the bad financial situation my family is and ever was but that explain why I’m still lock to them today. I thought I could live only if I do something I’m good for. One day at school (I was 9) we played this sport and I was good at it (handball) and in that moment, I let ppl tell me what I should do w/ my life. I never had a good relationship w/ my body, never been a thin girl because of a family who force me to eat in a certain way but I was an athlete. Handball was all my life and I thought it was the only good thing I could do in my life. My body was yelling me that I was wrong which make my suicidal thoughts and depression even worst. With a family who don’t want to see it even if I talked about it with them make me believe what they say : these thoughts were all my fault. Even if I’m a lonely person by nature with my personality (I never struggle to have friends but I never looked for – but never had a relationship), get outta this circle was the thing I had to find my own way because help will never came (because all I felt was just a shame for them). I tried to unlock myself from my family even when I was still playing but that’s a failure. I went to England 2 years which make me able to speack english but I’ve been forced to come back. I literally live locked up in a room w/ a family who wants nothing else but money from me. I succeed to survive depression and suicidal thoughts on my own but not at any sacrifice : I let my body down to lift myself mentally up. I’m not obese but I’m not thin and I’m not an athlete (I will call myself fat but I lost all perception of myself). I stay locked because I can’t mentally handle racisme anymore. I didn’t touch my hair for 2 years now. They are hiding under à scarf (pretend my family I have a lot of hair while they are so messy that the only thing I can do will be to shave my head) . Getting out w/ a scarf right now in France is REALLY NOT the thing to do (just another reason to stay locked). I literally dream of making a body revenge but made by you (I don’t like the Kardashian but I can’t deny that this show makes me dream because I’m yelling myself if I’m just thinking workout, eating workout, sleeping workout then I’ll find progressively a routine for my life and I will allow myself to live and get outta my situation). I try to made as much sit up that i could during the time you made 100 w/ Brie then I tried the other video but my physical condition is a catastrophe. I stopped and the next day I begun your 7 days thigh challenge (in my rythm). It’s my 5th day. I thought I took some weight in Day 3 but I thought about what you said : that it’s not about how I look but how I feel that matters, then I realize that I actually lost cellulite (I don’t take pic of myself, this is that much I ever support & love myself… so when I talk about a revenge body or you saving me, I’m not exagerating). I don’t know what will be next for me but w/ what you passed and pass throught, I just wanted to open myself to you (and unlocked myself a little less by creating an email – that’s how much I locked myself) and tell you thank you for these few days because I know you did endure a lot to succeed to reach me.
Hello GLO. I’m so sorry to hear. Dealing with body negativity is . I glad that you pushed through hard times and was able to share your inspiring story
Unfortunately everyone is entitled to an opinion – but you as an adult have a choice of what you do with it. Everyone is entitled to an opinion and sadly, as you have chosen a public lifestyle, it means more people will have an opinion about you…but…they do have freedom of speech. If you want to live in a bubble of positivity that’s great and I wish you the best… But if you want to be realistic, try understanding that you won’t please everyone. Everything you post on the public internet is subject to public scrutiny, its highs and its lows. Whose opinion do you really care about? The sooner you realise the true answer to that, the less you will care.
Don’t worry, I didn’t create an mail adress for ppl opinion. I just wanted to support Cassey and to do it my own way, and with my own story, it was the most sincere support I think I could give. Like I said, my problem right now is my body and the opinion I have about it, not opinions from ppl.
Glo, look after yourself. Well done for being brave. Keep writing – it’s good therapy. And so is doing Cassey’s videos. Hope things get better for you soon. Could you speak to a doctor for mental health help? It might be a good idea. Take care.
I think you may be true but I can’t w/ my family. I tried to talk about it when I was 18 w/ them and the answer I had was just full of aggressivity (which make me feel worst). Since 9, when I was practicing sport ppl always try to help me and quickly understood that they couldn’t do it w/ my family. They were there for me but forced me to only do this sport. I get through this but for sure to keep going on w/ Cassey I may need help to not give up or be objective on what I’m doing because yeah it probably can affect my mental health again but I still wanna try w/ the few I’ve got. I finished my 7 days thigh challenge today, will start the harder tomorrow but because I just met her like this, I didn’t check and try to learn about her beginner & regular calandar before (or even her blog) and when I learn about it I already begun the challenge and I was “I shouldn’t had done this” because I feel I’ve done this the wrong way but at the end I kept pushing. Even by “looking at me” (because I don’t look at me in a mirror or picture), I don’t know if it had a physical effect on my body but I just try to feel it like she said. I just wanna believe what she said : maybe if I feel a little bit better in my body some doors will open in the way I will never imagine so for the moment I’m still here. I told myself I’ll do the next level of the 7 days thigh challenge then the 28 days challenge then the beginner calendar and then the regular one. She decided to do fitness because it was the lifestyle she want to have no matter her shape (she shouldn’t do yoga because ppl say it’s positive or not. She do fitness her own way no matter what ppl think). I never saw fitness that way (I always saw it as a goal and then you quit). Of course you’ve got some goals (and she have some) but they are link to a lifestyle. Ppl bully her because they just like the fact they can do sport and accept themselves the way they are but when you accept yourself the way you are, you are evoluating (for example, when you do abs work, after, you don’t eat the same because your belly can’t take as much food as before and she should make videos what do i eat. Maybe link them to her work out for ppl to be more in phase w/ her training). So yeah, I’m sure you right but I don’t have this option and for the moment I’m hanging on.
Kids would make fun of me in grade school too I know how that feels and how even after all this years still hurts. Now after 3 kids I’m dealing with overweight and vitiligo and somedays I feel so bad that I don’t even want to look in the mirror. A couple of months ago I found your videos and started exercising with your videos and believe me I feel much better, happier and stronger. Thank you for the videos, the energy and positivity!
Yes!! Happier is so important!! Proud of you!
There’s nothing wrong with wanting to lose weight. But I think it’s quite sad that your journey to self-confidence came only through your weight loss journey. Why didn’t you just set out to eat healthy and become more self confident? Why didn’t you set health goals, both physical and mental, rather than body measurement goals? You could’ve made it a goal to spend one hour with yourself everyday. Meditate 20 minutes. Say no to 3 things that you don’t really want to do each day. But no, instead you set body fat percentage goals. Because even though you claim it’s not the case anymore, clearly your confidence is very much linked to your weight still. You didn’t overcome anything, you just gave into the lifelong pressure we feel that tells us we will be confident only when we lose the extra weight…
You mired the whole point of her beautiful, raw and amazing post about people bullying her for her body.. and showed proved her point to everyone.
Haven’t got anything nice to say? Shut the hell up
why do you get to have an opinion but not me? I think she’s sending the wrong message to millions of very impressionable young girls. This is my opinion, and I am very much free to voice it, so I am.
You cannot take everything people say at face value. Cassey keeps insisting that this was a physical and a mental journey, but the focus was (at least publicly) very much just on the physical. What do you think this did to all those young girls who were following Cassey because they thought they finally found someone who didn’t tell them “you have to be thinner” all the time?
If you want to hate on Blogilates please just keep it to yourself. Cassey is just trying to become healthy and the best SHE can be. It’s her life so don’t try to criticize. My advice for you is that if you don’t like blogilates just meditate and work on your mental wellbeing. Cassey is just trying to help as much people that she can.
So if I don’t like her, I must be mentally unwell? That’s a rather big leap, wouldn’t you agree?
It is of course her life, but she also has a lot of influence on other people’s lives. With this much influence comes a great deal of responsibility, at least in my opinion. And this 90 day journey might have been necessary for Cassey, but it was selfish of her to do this so publicly, when she very well knows that there are many, many people with eating disorders that gravitated to her channel because of her body positive message.
What she does with her life is her business, but no one can claim that we don’t have the right to have an opinion on what she puts out there publicly.
I’m sorry I offended you. I’m just saying that if you don’t like Blogilates just don’t listening to her. If you think she doesn’t send the right message just do what YOU want to do. I just don’t think you should be cyber bullying Blogilates. 🙁
no I’m not offended, why should I be offended? That’s my point exactly. Just because you voiced your opinion against mine doesn’t mean I have the right to get offended. And just because I voiced mine doesn’t mean I’m cyber bullying Cassey. When did it become such a provocative thing to voice different opinions? It seems that these days everyone is offended by everything, and therefore people surround themselves only with people that agree with them. But that just means you never get to grow. Hearing differing opinions should be an opportunity for self-reflection, not for playing the victim.
I don’t think it’s fair to judge someone’s health journey because it didn’t look how how you wanted it to. You’re being problematic in insinuating she didn’t really achieve anything. What you’re saying is easier said then done. Some people’s work ethics and goals are different and the way they accomplish things are also different. It’s a choice for the self. It’s not her job to cater to every one else’s thoughts on how she should lose weight, what to look like and how to display it to an audience. Crap! you’re even criticizing how she should choose to develop self-confidence. This was not a selfish act. It was vulnerable. It also helps scout out negativity like this and further proves her point.
That is how you interpreted Cassey’s actions and message, I interpreted it differently. We each are entitled to our opinion. I still think what she did was fairly out of character for her channel, and unnecessarily triggering for her audience. In my opinion she did more harm than good.
By the way, I wouldn’t call this a “health journey”. It was a weight loss journey. But again, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with wanting to lose weight. The problem I see is that she did this incredibly publicly, triggered a lot of people, and now incessantly plays the victim.
Mandy, you are entitled to your opinion, but I think you are being a bit harsh. Cassey is healthy, strong, and confident. What’s wrong with that? In my opinion she is an excellent role model for me and other young girls and women. Cassey hasn’t even posted a recommended diet or something like that. And she is not “playing the victim”. Yes, it triggered a lot of people. But that is not Cassey’s fault. She was simply posting workout videos on YouTube and sharing healthy recipes. She did nothing wrong.
Thank you – it is unpopular to post anything other than full support and uncritical adoration here, but I agree with what you wrote. I took a year long break from pilates and when I came back it was quite a surprise. She definitely doesn’t seem like “the same old Cassey”. Regardless of how she looks, the old Cassey would not have said “it’s zero calories” when talking about food in one of her videos. I don’t find any of this triggering or bad for me personally, I always only worked out to be fit and healthy, weight was never an issue. But I do think the way she did her weight loss journey was damaging to a lot of her followers and it seems out of character. Good that it worked out for her and if she is happy and healthy, that’s great. But she has a wide audience and I can understand how a lot of people would feel let down and disappointed by the whole (very public and detailed) process.
I really appreciate you for being you and doing whatever makes you happy no matter your size suits everyone
I’m a long time fan and I’m sad that this is my first comment because you deserve all the love. I’ve seen the conversations and narrative shift and it angers me deeply. I’m standing with you and your heart for what is true and good!
I feel your love all the way from here!! Thank you for being part of the community!!
Haters gonna hate! I think you are fabulous and a WONDERFUL role model! Not just for me but for my daughter! They say sticks and stone break your bones but words can never hurt me. Ha! Words can be so hurtful. Sometimes, it helps to show these people a little grace and empathy. Which is easier said than done no doubt! Because with EVERYTHING that is going on in the world right now, wildfires, COVID, war, famine, disease, a lot of people still have no jobs and have lost their homes due to COVID, and all these haters got is body image comments? It must be nice that that is their top concern. Know that you are loved, admired, and a total boss b**ch 🙂 (Which is an AWESOME song from the Birds of Prey soundtrack). The truth is womens bodies have always been under the microscope and I applaud you for standing up and speaking out 🙂 Love and hugs from Colorado!
I want to clarify my “give the haters grace and compassion” statement. I know it’s hard but really those people are so angry, and unhappy and miserable that I feel more pity for them than hate. Again, easier said than done for sure but what people say and think about you is a reflection of them. And even though things are hard and most of us are trying to hold on with the bare minimum, there is still some beauty in this world 🙂 I’m sorry it has been directed at you. But these people will channel their toxicity to the Starbucks barista, the nurse, or the server at the restaurant. 🙂 Hugs again from Colorado!
Omg cassey ! I really have no words to say . All i can say is i love you for who you are and that will never change . Haters are gonna hate ,no matter what ! There are soo soo many people who love u tooo. After all we are humans . We decide to do something one day and then the next day our opinions may change . We cant see you like that again , NEVER !!!! Keep doing what you’re doing for people who are always there for you .
Lots of lovee ❤️❤️
Hi from Norway! Just wanted to say that you are the reason I started with pilates. You alwsys make me smile during training. Haters gonna hate. So keep staying cool!
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Oh my gosh, I can’t imagine how terrible that is! You are amazing. I like that you are actually honest, that you talk about what works and what doesn’t for you, and your energy, and honestly there are so many fitness accounts out there where they go on and on about your ‘best self’ and then have obvious implants. Or talk about how they never diet and it’s all bullshit. You are genuinely considering and changing your body and evaluating how you feel and sharing that, along with easily the best workouts ever. And I feel sorry for your haters. Sitting around, scrolling and criticing strangers on the internet…. that’s sad. Think about how lousy they must feel about themselves that they have to go around and find people to judge. What’s important is that you feel healthy and energetic!
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Cassey,
You have inspired me in so many ways! Because of you, I have learned and am continuing to learn to love my body for what it is and to also realize that being body positive doesn’t mean you reject strengthening and improving your body. I want you to know that you will always have me to support you no matter what everyone else says. I love you so much and I want you to also know that no matter what changes you go through I will still continue to love you for who you are! Also, the people that truly support and love you will not be fairweather friends, they will stick with you even when others don’t. Keep doing what you love because it makes you happy!
God Bless you always!
Grace
Thank you Grace <3
Cassey you are my great inspiration…i love you!!!
I enjoy your exercise videos because of your positive energy. You make exercise seem like fun. Your weight is non of my business.
Cassey, I’m so sad that you have had to deal with this kind of pressure. I have followed you since 2014 and I have always been thankful for you as a person. You are an instructor that inspires me to keep going when I’m exhausted and you keep a very difficult workout fun and uplifting even though everything is shaking :). Thank you for all of your hard work in creating Blogilates. It’s an incredible program. Also, you are a beautiful person inside and out and it takes a lot of courage and a lot of hard work to do what you have achieved. Please remember, there are people who follow you like me who’ve never commented until now, but that are inspired by you for who you are
Thank you for your kind message <3
When you write these types of entries they are, in my view, the most honest and motivational. I started following you in May of 2019 (kind of by accident really) so I was pretty new when you started your 90 day journey but it was clear how much it meant to you. Even though I don’t know you personally, I’m so proud of you! Not just proud of ‘you being you’ through the discourteous comments and headlines, but you being ‘the best you’ and taking care of yourself. I’ve always thought you looked beautiful and healthy but it’s reassuring to me, as someone who has seen a difference after over a year of doing your Pilates, that you put your health and happiness first because it also motivates me to put my health and happiness first, no matter what that means.
(And also, even ‘vanilla cupcakes’ can be sweet and wonderful when they are made with the best ingredients. 🙂
Thank you <3
I just want to hug you! (But you don’t know me personally so I wouldn’t 😉) I found your videos back in 2019 and have always loved the joy you exuded in your workouts! I have always admired your determination and work ethic. I have also appreciated your honesty about your body image struggles(I have always thought you were really cute as well)
HUG! <3
Cassey,
I just wanted to say that you and your videos have made a huge difference in my life.
You are inspiring, positive, and make it a joy to work out. You are also so great when people need advice. I too was made fun of by classmates for being fat, and you’re right about the scars not healing. However, the further I get from those people, the happier and healthier I get. Here’s to letting the haters hate. Thank you for everything you do.
<3 <3
Women are encouraged to be in competition with each other and to be jealous. It stems from males wanted us to fight with each other so that we don’t get ahead of them in life. Think about it, if we’re spending a tremendous amount of time focusing on other women…then we’re spending less time on improving ourselves and surpassing men in society. You are the reason why I wake up extra-early in the morning. You are the reason why I am seeing changes in my body composition. You are the reason why I am feeling better about myself. To tell you the truth, I was drawn to you because you didn’t have a “Fitspo Look,” but guess what? I think you have that look now but I’m cheering for you, not jeering. You do you. You’re an inspiration.
Thank you so much <3
When will Fit Planner 2021 will be available? I just can’t wait😍
very very soon!!
Love you, Cassey! Your workouts are amazing and you are hilarious.
I’ve been doing you workouts on and off for nearly 9 years. I always come back to your page when I am feeling like I need a boost 🙂
Please Cassey don’t listen to them…. They themselves are insecure
You have helped me in many ways…..I love you and will always
I even had the same problem…. Listening to others opinion but since you came to my life it is much better
♥️
Thank you for being the authentic you Cassey. I’ve been following you from the beginning. I’m very happy for you that you are in your happy place and remain true to yourself through and through. Thank you for being a great role model in all aspects of life.
Your a strong woman cassey. Dont let anyone dull your shine. Thanks for sharing.. I dont say much but have probably been around since your first videos.. Honestly i still see you..same sweet girl..motivating me to move!
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While I agree with what you’re saying and truly cannot understand why anyone would feel that it is ok to comment on another person’s body EVER, I also think that as an health and fitness influencer, you do open yourself up to body criticism. Is it wrong? ABSOLUTELY! But every single health and fitness blogger I follow has had at least one post on the same topic. I think it’s something you just have to learn to let roll off your shoulders and ignore. Those people obviously have self-esteem issues and will always have something mean to say. I personally think you look fantastic in both of those photos. It’s very apparent that you eat well and exercise but do not take either to any extreme. As long as you’re happy with how you look and more importantly how you FEEL, then just ignore those rude comments.
THANK YOU, Cassey! I appreciate what you’re doing. I’ve done 3/4th of your Beginner’s Calendar. Four times. One of these days I’m going to make it all the way through and get to one of the regular calendars!
When I was a kid and in high school, it was my nose. My big nose. I was made fun of for it all the time. I am 42 now, and I thought I had grown into my “big” nose….and just a few months ago, I heard someone describe me as “the one with the big nose”. It absolutely freaking gutted me. It hurt me unbelievably. Crazy how those ghosts can come back.
People can be so mean! I know we haven’t met but I know you’re just perfect. Big hugs <3
You deserve so much better than what people are throwing at you. You’re strong, you’re authentic and you’re incredibly talented. I am sorry people are letting you down. With love <3